Deirdre

The Second Time around

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So I figured since my other journal was old and long I'd start fresh. New marriage and not so new life really but it'll be nice to have everything new. 

 

So I have this awful story to start out telling you all. So the girls ended up flying to Oregon last Monday to their uncle Stewart and Aunt Alycia's house. This is Nick's brother and sister in law. We've had some really good experiences lately with communicating with them. Nick was supposed to go there as well to see the girls and have a sort of "supervised" visit. He ended up voluntarily committing himself to a mental health facility a couple weeks ago and still is there so the girls didn't have to see him at all. Thankfully. Either way, they had an awesome visit with their aunt and uncle and cousins and got to know them. 

So this morning at 3am I left my house to go to Boston to pick them up by 7am at the airport. Well last week when we dropped the girls off our dog Max was barking so loudly for hours apparently that our neighbors called the local PD and they called us. He was inside, but the windows were open on top so he could be heard more. I am usually always home with him in the last year and he has EXTREME seperation anxiety. He also needs to take trazadone if we are in group settings and theres lots of people at our house or we take him anywhere. At our wedding we took him and had to medicate him. I feel so bad. 

So the PD last week just said they felt bad for him so maybe just close our windows tight to cut down on the sound. Especially since that was a one time thing ever. Our neighbors have never ever had any reason to complain about noise. So that made me upset, but I understand too... but still if you knew we'd lived nearby for over a year and never caused any issues and clearly we weren't home, I'm not sure what they expect anyone to do about it. I didn't know he would be like that if I wasn't home for that long. 

So lets fast forward to today. I could NOT find his medication anywhere because we took it with us to the wedding and I know it's probably in my car or in a bag somewhere. Trust me, I looked! So I finally had to just go. I made sure all the windows were closed and he had food, water, and let him go potty. Well, about an hour and a half into our trip to Boston around 5:30am the Sargent calls us and asked if we owned a black dog because there was one one our roof. :k4917::sad::sad0017:  I was stunned. How the hell did he get out??? How did he get on the roof? Well it was the porch roof where Amber's bedroom window goes right out to  and in the upstairs in her room there is a window a/c unit. He pushed the plastic side things to the side and squeezed out of this tiny hole and was barking on our roof at 5:30am. This is sooo embarrassing, and I never in a million years could have guessed he would do that. Barking in the house like a mad dog... ok. fine. but pushing his way out a second story window? Thank GOD we have a great friend that doesn't live too far away and totally was cool with us waking him up at 5:30am to get Max into the house, and into his crate. He's going to go in his crate every time I leave now and will have to be medicated 100%. I'm so upset and bothered that he did that and I know our neighbors probably hate us. So embarrassing. I try to be a good neighbor and keep my yard nice. We've been fixing up this house which was a total trash heap when we bought and the grass was 3.5 feet tall all around it. It looked abandoned. So I feel like people should be thankful someone is trying to help the neighborhood be nicer. Maybe I'm just overanalyzing. My poor Max... but seriously. This poor guy is killing me. Since the girls have been gone he's taken to chewing things up. I know it's anxiety about not knowing where they have been all summer. He's never chewed since we've had him for over a year and a half. 

So that's my introductory story into my life lol

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Congrats on the new life journal! 

Sorry to hear that story about your dog. That must be mortifying. I'm sure the neighbours don't hate you though. Especially if it was a one time thing. Poor Max. 

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Oh man, poor guy.  That's crazy that he could get out on the roof like that.  What a rascal.   lf l were you l would go talk to the neighbors and explain what is up.   lf they don't understand the poor guy had anxiety then who cares what they think.  lol :k4915:   At least you will know you tried.

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Poor dog. My heart aches when I hear stories like that. Dee, there si a way to train him, it's called positive re-enforcement. That's how I trained Olivia. She used to get anxiety when I left, and the very first time we went out and left her in her crate, she had thrown up all over herself barking so much. So I really took my time to train her like it was my full-time job. Now when we leave, she senses the rhythm of our movements like when we're beginning to put our shoes on, our coats, my purse, and she knows that's her cue to go sit down and wait for her treat. And that's exactly what she does, and she's happy doing so because she wants her treat. We give it to her, walk out the door, she sleeps the entire time we're gone, and when we come back, she's still in her bed, wagging her tail, and I have to go to her before she gets up. So I'm a big believer in positive re-enforcement training. It trains pets to think that something bad (like going out) becomes something good (a treat). you should try it in short bursts like first go to the yard, then around the block, then the store, etc. It takes a long time of pure commitment. possibly a few months. But she's still a pup and now is the time to break her. You should look it up on YT. It's a real good technique, and absolutely no yelling at the dog ever. That's the main thing I heard too.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I understand where the neighbors are coming from too, maybe if you could walk over and explain it to them, they could be more understanding, and even try to help you with the situation. Good luck, Hun.

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Sorry about your dog, he just misses you, but yeah, a good training can help a lot.

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Thanks ladies.

Rachel, I'm going to start doing stuff like that. I had done that a while ago. When he'd go to his crate I'd give him a treat. He always knew we were going to be leaving. He can tell. I can see the panic in his eyes and I tried being really positive, giving him love then a treat, and a treat when we get home. I'll look more into that. The trouble came when I started letting him stay out of his crate because I thought he'd be happier laying around the house or playing with his toys and having access to his food/water. I shouldn't have started doing that at all. 

 

In other news that the last two days have felt like fall here. This morning feels so crisp out. I can't wait to go out and drink my coffee. The kids are still asleep from the time difference because of their trip. It's so nice and peaceful. I can't wait to start doing all the fall type things. Eva asked me yesterday if we could go apple picking. :)

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I love fall crispness. It's like one of those things in life that truly brings me joy. I can't wait for summer to be over.

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I love all the fall stuff too. I like summer, but after that fall-iness the other day I started craving more lol. Of course it's muggy and hot here today. 

I've been so busy since the girls got home. I'm so loving it. It's weird how they motivate me but I've been cleaning like mad and my house hasn't been so clean all summer, even though they weren't home lol. It feels good. Amber had a friend over, and I had my nephew for two days here and now Sadie is off having a playdate with her little friend. I hope we can get a few days before school starts to just relax and enjoy being together. Oh how badly I missed them <3

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Well, the girls have all started back to school. My classes started yesterday. I have three online ones I'm taking. I'm taking Math 114: Technical Math, Soc 218: Social Problems, and English 220: Writing in the Sciences. 

I think I'll like the English and Sociology class. Math... not so much lol. I'll get through it though. 

We got a new puppy as a companion for Max. He's doing really well. We've had him home for 10 days now and he's fit in really nicely. He and max play a lot which is great since it tires them both out. 

My freezer in my refrigerator has been acting up and yesterday it stopped being very cool. It came with the house and it's old probably at least 10-15 years old. I took everything out of it and put that stuff in our garage refrigerator and I'm thawing it all out to see if it's just frozen up. I feel bad but I secretly hope it can't be fixed so we can get a new one lol. 

This is the one I want. 

 

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I like the ones with the freezer on the bottom, but Miguel was like "naah" and we got one with french doors. I hope you get the one you posted!

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That is almost exactly like the fridge l have at home and l love it aside from the fact that freezer space seems so small.  

Congrats on the puppy,  show us pics!

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The fridge i have now look just like that on the inside. I love it. I chose it to fit sheet pans. Very nice. Hope you get it. Congrats about the puppy. he's cute!

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Lola, the one I have now has the bottom freezer it's just a really old model, but I think there isn't a lot of freezer space either. We've been planning on getting a chest freezer anyway because when I stock up on stuff for 6 people I feel like I'm always running out of room.

 

Here's little Reddington. We're just calling him Redd. He is 10 weeks old today. He loves Max. Max likes him a lot too. They are getting alot of energy out playing. Max just gets tired since he's close to 3  and doesn't have that puppy energy. Sometimes he gets annoyed if Redd wants to play with his toys but they are being very good to each other. I just keep redirecting Redd to his own stuff lol.  He is a huge snuggle bug. He loves snuggling and will put himself on his own back to lay like a baby in our arms its so cute. That isn't going to last long. He's already gained 3 pounds and is about 18 pounds now. He's a Doberman/Staffordshire Terrier mix. 

His only issue, poor thing, is that we have found out several times he gets motion sick in the car. 

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Your puppies are so cute.

Love the fridge. I have something similar made by GE with a double door instead of a single.

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Your dogs are super cute together :love-heart-hand-smiley-emoticon:

 

 

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What a little cutie!   l love that they have each other!   They will be forever friends. 

Have you thought of a car seat/harness for Redd?  It keeps them in place and gives them a sense of security, that may help with the car sickness.

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Yeah I keep Olivia in the crate. But one time I had Olivia in the bicycle basket and she got bike sick, and threw up while I was riding and the vomit streamed back like a ribbon. Chuck and I were laughing so hard it was so funny, but sad at the same time. lol I never knew dogs could get motion sickness.

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Poor Olivia haha. But yeah, some times I even cover my cats crates with a thin blanket so they don't see the movement through the windows and get calm.

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Thanks everyone! 

Lola, I was going to look into one anyway for safety but I didn't know it could help with that. I'll have to check them out asap.

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So I took pup to the vet last week and he got his second round of puppy shots and his 12 week check up. They loved him and he was very well behaved. :) He was 24.2lbs already. Oh my. lol He's going back at 16 weeks. 

 

Our fridge officially died and I got a new one last Sunday. I love it, and I love that it works! LOL. It was the store model and it was on clearance for like $800 less than retail and the system glitched at checkout when I was getting the 5 year extended warranty (not risking anything!) and it gave me another discount that essentially paid for the extended warranty lol. 

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Here's my boys!!!

 

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Beautiful flowers my momma grew :)

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I also started painting my kitchen finally. I'm gonna work on it more today so I will post pictures later :D 

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Isn't it funny how a nice appliance can get us excited now? lol   That fridge is kick ass! 

l love the color of the walls in your dining room,  what is it?

Your boys are beautiful,  l love Reddingtons little face, it looks like he's smiling. :k4929:

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Thank you :) It's Grant Gray by Behr at Home Depot. 

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I got a new phone a few days ago and it has this portrait mode on it. I love it. Makes my boys look even more handsome :D 

 

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