At the end of October I found out Jeff was starting to date, only a few weeks after our split. Then 2 weeks after that I saw he had changed his relationship status to 'in a relationship' with some girl, I was absolutely shocked. Shortly after that him and his entire family deleted me from Facebook and stopped speaking to me. I went into kind of a dark time, I stopped eating and started making some bad decisions, being around people who weren't good for me. I carried on that way until January when I started to feel better and find my self worth again. I felt like I wanted to try to find someone again and decided to just try dating so I joined a dating site. It was very overwhelming, I was getting hundreds of messages from mostly terrible guys, but in the mix I did find and meet several great guys. I dated a few of them casually but decided I wasn't going to hang on to anything that I didn't feel was right so I had to break a few hearts (haha). Then I met John and I know it sounds cliche but it just felt different with him, no games and no bullshit, we took things slow and talked for a month before meeting. He told me he had been on the site for a while but hadn't actually gone on a date in a couple years. I made most of the moves as he was and is pretty shy, we finally met and I just felt an instant connection, I smiled like an idiot the whole way home. We continued to date casually (although both agreed we were only focusing on each other) for a couple of months at which point I asked if I was his girlfriend, he said he really liked me but wanted to be in love first before we put those kind of titles on it, I didn't agree but respected that and he promised that even though we weren't making that commitment by saying we were in an official relationship that he was only with me and would continue to be only with me. About a month later I brought him to a party to meet some friends for the first time and afterwards when we got home I felt something change in him, he just kept staring into my eyes and holding me and was being so intense. A couple days later he said he wanted me to be his girlfriend. A few weeks after that I realized I was in love with him but was scared to say so but finally got the courage to tell him last week and he told me he loves me too. He said he's never said it to anyone before and it's still new for him and I guess it's kind of new for me too. He makes me really happy, his honesty is something I always wanted in a partner and it feels so amazing to have that now. He never plays games and he's sweet in small ways like just remembering things I have mentioned wanting to do or try and making them happen. We are taking our first little trip together at the end of the month for a couple of days in Montreal and I'm very excited. As for Jeff the girl he was in a relationship with, turns out that they actually moved in together after a week and got engaged after 2 weeks. He's miserable now and they fight constantly and he has tried to come crawling back a few times. although I'm sad for the loss of our marriage I know now that we just wanted different things in life and that I wasn't happy with him and don't think I ever could be honestly, we both just became different people. So I'm excited now to see what life brings me, I plan on moving back into the city come winter and will be looking for a new job as well. I want to lose another 30 lbs and I have started pole fitness (lol yes like stripper poles) it's really fun and is actually a great work out! Roxy is back living with me (Jeff threatened to have her put down for her so called aggression, turns out she attacked his new chick...hahaha good puppy) and she's happy here. I have so much more drama on Jeff I could write a novel but I'm just glad not to be a part of it anymore, he's a boy and not a man and I really wish him well but it's not what I want for my life.