Well, I somehow did it again.. Ok, it wasn't really my fault but another surprise got ruined apparently. So I was having a typical mommy meltdown, feeling disrespected and blah blah blah by my kids yesterday and quite honestly mother's day sucked and that got brought up. I mean it was kind of OK but I was hungover and we ordered chinese food which is what I wanted for dinner but overall I felt like shit. Also, he didn't get me anything. He told me he looked at my wishlist and didn't know what to get so I could pick what I wanted and we'd ordered it... and quite frankly I don't want to. I can buy myself things anytime. It's not the same when it's not something they picked. And if I have things on a wishlist, I feel like that's easy enough to pick because it's ALL stuff I want. I keep it updated too.
So back to my venting, well when I bring up mother's day yesterday, I also brought up Thomas and how he's never going to propose. Again, just a vent and I shouldn't have said it in front of Amber, who is almost 12, but she blurts out "Thomas told me the other day he is going to propose when Aunt Rachel is here." My sister Rachel is a photographer and is coming to visit and a long time ago I had mentioned that he should secretly have her take pictures when he proposes. So she says that to me and I'm like what??? But the way she said stuff I honestly thought she was getting things confused with (a. him generalizing and (b. a couple months ago when I ruined the surprise proposing when my sister was here was brought up.
Of COURSE, I promptly texted my sister and asked if Thomas had said anything to her. My sister is the master of secret keeping. The stuff I've found out she knew all along boggles my mind, and she played it off VERY WELL. I was convinced there wasn't anything to it. Because I couldn't figure out how he could have possibly bought a ring without me knowing. So I honestly left it alone and went on about my day. After that the girls and I had a lovely day. Thomas got home from work and then comes outside when I was doing some chores and said he was unhappy. So I asked him why and he said because I knew about something I wasn't supposed to and I'm like what are you talking about? He said he knew that I KNEW because Rachel called him...
That right there is when I realized there was a legit plan to propose because Rachel never would have done that if there was nothing to it. Rachel called him and said that Amber had told me. I told thomas that if he hadn't said anything I really would have been surprised.. especially a few more weeks down the road when Rachel is here... I have a scatter brain when it comes to that stuff and since I had already dismissed it in my mind I definitely would have been surprised. So he was mad that I said he is the one that ruined the surprised, and my sister shouldn't have told him Amber said anything and here I am. We haven't spoken since last night. It ended up in a bad fight where he accused me of grilling Amber and making her tell me information which is BS.. if I thought she knew anything I wouldn't bother her because she's a KID. He told me last night that I "manipulated Amber" into telling me and that made me really mad and I said I wouldn't marry him ever because of it and he said he was going to throw the ring into the River when it arrived because he ordered it a few days ago dramatic much, but it turned out really awful. He's mad at me and I'm mad because it's not my fault someone said something to me. I didn't dig or suspect anything. not my fault.